Burges is an experienced and compassionate guide, and her message is resonant for people with any type of addictive behavior--and for people who aren't necessarily familiar with Buddhism. Her teachings are drawn from the Buddha's life and teachings (specifically the Eight Awarenesses of the Awakened Being and the Six Paramitas), and the wisdom of Japanese Buddhist priest Dogen Zenji, the founder of the Soto school of Zen, among others.
Burges emphasizes the importance of being in an active recovery program, and the teachings and practices she offers in each chapter--including reflections, journaling prompts, meditations, instructions for setting up and altar and zazen--are both a perfect adjunct and powerful reinforcement. Examples of reflections and journaling prompts include:
- Do you still hear the critical, contemptuous, sarcastic voice of a parent or partner in your own head?
- Do you sometimes hear yourself mirroring this negative voice with others?
- What were the models of relationship that you grew up with?
- What are ways that you can cultivate more patience?
- Check in with yourself to see if tiredness, hunger, loneliness, or anger is affecting your thinking in the moment.