Quin no se ha mirado alguna vez al espejo tratando de perdonarse la sumisin o no haber dicho lo que en verdad pensaba? Quin no ha sentido, as sea de vez en cuando, la lucha interior entre la indignacin por el agravio y el miedo a enfrentarlo? Aun as, en cada uno de nosotros hay un reducto de principios donde el yo se niega a rendir pleitesa y se rebela.
Tenemos la capacidad de indignarnos cuando alguien viola nuestros derechos o somos vctimas de la humillacin, la explotacin o el maltrato: podemos decir NO.En el proceso de aprender a querernos a nosotros mismos, junto al autoconcepto, la autoimagen, la autoestima y la autoeficacia, que ya he mencionado en Aprendiendo a quererse a s mismo, hay que abrirle campo a un nuevo auto: el autorrespeto, la tica personal que separa lo negociable de lo no negociable, el punto de no retorno. Detrs del ego que acapara, est el yo que vive y ama, pero tambin est el yo aporreado, el yo que exige respeto, el yo que no quiere doblegarse, el yo humano: el yo digno.
Comienza a decir que NO y a ser ms asertivo.
ENGLISH DESCRIPTION Every time we bow our heads, submit to, or accede to irrational requests, we deal a severe blow to our self-esteem: we flagellate ourselves. And even if we get away with it for the moment, managing to reduce the adrenaline and the discomfort generated by anxiety, we are left with the taste of defeat. Who hasn't looked in the mirror trying to forgive themselves for submitting or not having said what they really thought? Who hasn't felt, at least from time to time, the inner struggle between indignation at the grievance and the fear of confronting it? Even so, in each of us there is a stronghold of principles where the self refuses to pay homage and rebels. We have the capacity to be outraged when someone violates our rights or we are victims of humiliation, exploitation or mistreatment: we can say NO.In the process of learning to love ourselves, along with the self-concept, self-image, self-esteem and self-efficacy, which I have already mentioned in Learning to Love Yourself, we must open the way to a new self: self-respect, the personal ethics that separate the negotiable from the non-negotiable, the point of no return. Behind the ego that hoards, there is the self that lives and loves, but there is also the beaten self, the self that demands respect, the self that does not want to bend, the human self: the dignified self.
Start saying NO and be more assertive.