"Maybe God freed my heart to lead me on a journey to discover His..." This was not the soul whisper I wanted to hear after major heartbreak, but it was what I got. And it led me on a journey to discover a deeper, healthier, more biblical approach to singleness. Seeking Solo is the result of wrestling with God and discovering that - while I still dream of marriage - I actually do believe that He is the best author for my life's story. With or without a lover, God is faithful. The goal of biblical singleness is spiritual formation; learning to live in congruence with Christ. I tried to make myself better as a person to force God's hand and fulfill my deepest longing for this earthly life; this is not congruence with Christ. The season of singleness is good in its own right. The length of it is not indicative of a lack of desirability or marriageable traits. The length is not a punishment. The length of my season of singleness is preparatory; it is a time to become the sort of person from whom marriage is about a Kingdom-focused partnership, for whom marriage is not a necessity to a happy life, and for whom marriage is about sharpening and giving and delighting in the otherness of others. And if marriage does not happen, I will not regret accepting Jesus' invitation to fall more deeply in love with him! Seeking Solo is for the brave, ready to adventure with Jesus.
"Maybe God freed my heart to lead me on a journey to discover His..." This was not the soul whisper I wanted to hear after major heartbreak, but it was what I got. And it led me on a journey to discover a deeper, healthier, more biblical approach to singleness. Seeking Solo is the result of wrestling with God and discovering that - while I still dream of marriage - I actually do believe that He is the best author for my life's story. With or without a lover, God is faithful. The goal of biblical singleness is spiritual formation; learning to live in congruence with Christ. I tried to make myself better as a person to force God's hand and fulfill my deepest longing for this earthly life; this is not congruence with Christ. The season of singleness is good in its own right. The length of it is not indicative of a lack of desirability or marriageable traits. The length is not a punishment. The length of my season of singleness is preparatory; it is a time to become the sort of person from whom marriage is about a Kingdom-focused partnership, for whom marriage is not a necessity to a happy life, and for whom marriage is about sharpening and giving and delighting in the otherness of others. And if marriage does not happen, I will not regret accepting Jesus' invitation to fall more deeply in love with him! Seeking Solo is for the brave, ready to adventure with Jesus.
