The Rules We Live By: Stories and Reflections on Unlearning Patriarchal Masculinity

"Thank you, Destyn, for penning what I believe will be the catalyst for the freedom and self-discovery of many."
-Terrance McQueen, MDiv, Yale Divinity School

In this timely book, podcast host and scholar Destyn Land examines the nature of 'masculinity' and the lessons we are taught as children which carry into our adult lives. Through recollections from his own life, Destyn challenges readers to unpack the cultural norms which we have absorbed and accept the parts of us which may not fit within a traditional picture of the ideal masculine figure.

With topics ranging from anger to accountability, dealing with trauma, and the vulnerabilities of true friendship, Land draws on his experience as an educator and as a Black man with a Christian upbringing to lead readers on a reflective journey of their own.

Each section is followed by a devotional study to aid in challenging what we have been taught, and a question to prompt a moment of pause.